Declutter Your Mind/Space

If you had the slightest gut-wrenching or ill-feeling when you read the title, this applies to you! All the closets, drawers, trunks, rooms that are filled with junk, let it go sis! That dress that you wore back in 2010 that used to fit your size 6 body WILL NOT fit your size 10 body now. I am by no means discouraging you from being physically fit, I'm just trying to help you put things into perspective. I am simply saying to offload, get rid of some things. Better yet, donate to charity. Put it this way, the clothing I wore ten years ago, will no longer serve me. One, my body type is way different; sis got a lil junk in her trunk now 😂. Two, my old clothes won't do my current body goals any justice. What I’m trying to say is, if you don’t alter your space as you go along, you will literally have baggage. Imagine trying to move into a new living space with clothes and shoes that you’ve had from ten years ago that are outdated, tight, and for lack of a better word, dusty. You’d’ve just rented a U-Haul for extended hours/time when you could’ve saved money and done less work.

This may be a little TMI BUT let's get real. Every 28 days I notice that I'll randomly start to clean. Listen carefully. I'm not saying that's the only time I clean or do laundry, BUT it's like an internal indication that there is silent clutter around me, and my OCD kicks in. I mean, full-blown 11 PM sweating, shirt lop-sided, edges shriveled up [Cue Black Parade by Beyoncé], listening to the jams, making sure my stovetop is spick and span, type clean. I've noticed that it's almost as though my inner self was dying inside and she just reached her peak and couldn't take it anymore. THIS is the type of decluttering I'm talking about - for every aspect of your life.

Memorabilia is great, but sometimes we hold on to items/memories that lack significance and are really trash. Some of those memories you're holding on to are directly proportional to your toxic behaviors. It's somewhat like the result of a soul-tie between inanimate objects and memories. It brings you back to a place that makes you feel good only for a moment, while ignoring the toxic restraints it had on you to begin with. Don't get me wrong, memories are cherished and valued, but when it becomes hazardous to the mind and body, it will leave you at a loss. Parting ways with what doesn't serve you, don't just apply to people, it applies to the self-sabotaging flaws that drive you (into the ground) as well. Keep telling yourself I'm no good, I'm crazy, Nobody will ever love me, and watch it unfold. There is power in the tongue! Yes, I get it, we're human, we slip up and life isn't always peaches and cream know what I mean ... peaches and cream 🎶 throwback to when R&B music was an ENTIRE vibe. But your mental space is not the house for pessimism. It reflects what you think of yourself and what you allow others to think of you.

It’s the same with mental clutter. Stop hauling around thoughts that are a detriment to your overall health. You ever notice how many times you think about an illness and then 💥 you find yourself doing a self breast exam at 1AM 👀 oh so it's just me? How many of you thought you had the ‘Rona? Trust, I had my mini scares. Checking my temp at 9PM wondering if I had just had tea because 37.4°C is way above my norm. What you speak, you allow to manifest. Don’t allow unsettling thoughts, someone else’s opinions or insecurities about you to negatively affect you. You know, those thoughts that play a mile a minute when you’re finally in bed and about to knock out. It’s not worth it. Say you're prayers and go to bed!

Not because your family was horrible growing up and they treated you like Cinderella means that you should bring that bitterness into adulthood. CHOOSE to rise above it. I'm not saying that it'll be easy, but you have to move forward to gain peace. Childhood traumas also clutter your mental space and as adults, our actions/reactions stem from a negative childhood experience. It doesn't have to be physical abuse - it's the language they used, what they said, how they said it, their tone, using your flaws against you, aunting you, and the list goes on and on. Oftentimes, the perpetrator is also affected by some form of childhood trauma or lack of affection. There are so many ways in which we've been affected, and we don't acknowledge what happened or seek to fix it. You have to acknowledge your triggers and decide to overcome them. Don't wallow in the areas of your life that bring out the worst in you. It demeans your character. Decluttering your mental space means that you are making way for a better version of yourself to emerge. If it means cutting people off or getting counseling - JUST DO IT ✔

Sis, it's time to let go of people, things, and thoughts that DO NOT SERVE YOU! BLOCK AND DELETE that person who grinds your gears and put you in a bad mood. Donate the apparel to charity. Write out all your limiting beliefs and negative self-talk,then pray over it; ask God to remove/break the strongholds, then physically throw the list out.

It's time to birth those healthy ideas. Radiate positive energy and GLOW ✨.