PROTECT YOUR PEACE

Sistren, this right here 👆🏾! I know I've said this before, but this silent season has brought me so much peace it's unbelievable. I have prioritized my life and invested in self and it feels amazing. I am less concerned with others and what's going on with the outside world, and more concerned with my mindset and growth. How many times have you spent listening to what others have had to say about you and your choices, and then you've found yourself being extremely annoyed, and sometimes even upset? It's not a good feeling is it? You have to protect your peace. Don't allow someone else to drain you of your energy, or mess with your aura. They'll carry on their merry ol' way and you'll only suffer the consequences.

So often we are concerned with how others will feel if we respond the way we really want to, but ignore how our responses actually affect us. You don't have to be a 'yes (wo)man'; if your friendships are dependent upon you being a pushover, then is the friendship really worth it? You have to intentionally start choosing yourself. It is extremely important to set boundaries; if the other person doesn't respect it, then ultimately they do not respect you. And in actuality, you don't respect yourself. It's like telling someone not to call you after 11PM, but they ONLY call you during booty call hours, what does that say to you? That screams disrespect. You don't have to be rude or confrontational, but you do have to stand up for yourself. SAY IT WITCHO CHEST! Lately, I’ve been discovering that once someone rubs me the wrong way, the quicker I am to leave them alone. My CUT OFF WHAT DOESN’T SERVE ME energy is really strong these days.

Peace comes from within. You have to spend the necessary time with yourself to discover it. I believe that my peace is directly proportional to my spirituality; I've found peace because I've uncovered my truths and I'm constantly working to spend time with God. If you feel that something was placed on your heart, don't ignore that. Once you feel rooted in what you're doing, no matter what others may think, you have to be true to what was placed on your heart. I know that not everyone will understand why I chose to blog or extend myself on this type of platform, but I know that it is bigger than I can imagine.

I'm all for support and lifting another sister up. I know how it feels to not be fully supported or have naysayers whisper in my ear. I have to make a conscious decision to either show my support for another or leave it alone. I wouldn't want someone to doubt their abilities because of something I said. As much as I believe in having a good support system, I also think that not everyone needs to know your business. Your career, personal, business, investment moves are yours; not every friend or family member deserves to know, and definitely not social media. This is how you protect your energy. I've noticed that if I share something personal with someone, and they are not receptive or supportive, that topic will not arise in conversation from my end. People will always be quick to share opinions because we are naturally wired that way. Constructive criticism is great, but opinions, not so much.

I was chatting with a close girlfriend of mine last weekend and she shared feeling anxious about her future endeavors and relaying it to others. I completely understood where she was coming from. Having your guard up because of the fear of someone else's reaction is disheartening. How would you feel if you had good news to share and held on tight because your mom/dad/friend would sabotage it in a heartbeat? Oftentimes the response occurs from projected insecurities but that's a whole 'nother blog post chile. This is why, once you've embarked on your journey to self-discovery, you need to learn to protect your peace. It's not worth giving someone else the satisfaction of ruining your blessings. Pray for them and move on.

Apart of the reason my blog name is Own Your Authenticity, is because I was on a path to protecting what I knew needed to be birthed. It's my journey and my story and whoever doesn't agree can go 🌚 elsewhere. Let me stop being facetious. If it's serving you in this season, and it gives you a sense of fulfillment, do it sis.

It's in my tagline "do what makes you feel complete".