POWER IN THE TONGUE

There is POWER IN THE TONGUE. Proverbs 18:21 confirms it by saying "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Do you ever realize how many times you've said something and it 'miraculously' happens? Maybe you didn't even speak it. What about your thoughts? Your thoughts become you. If you're constantly speaking/thinking about something you bring it to fruition. I have a very BAD habit of saying "I can't" - sometimes it may be the overwhelming feeling from performing tasks, feeling incompetent, or simply in regular dialogue. I was at work the next day, and just when I was about to say it, I caught myself. I hadn't realized how much I allowed these two words to become apart of my regular self-dialogue. Subsequently, when I’ve said it, I feel like I'm cheating myself of the opportunity to truly perform. It is important to feed yourself positivity. about you, it will create".

A really good friend of mine had the habit of saying "I'm a dub". The context in which she would use this phrase was in relation to intimate relationships. However, as a woman, she’s the bomb.com. She has a lot going for herself. She's well educated, very attractive, has a great personality, humorous, and embodies other great attributes. I am motivated by her. She's the definition of a boss babe. To hear her say "I'm a dub" was funny at first, but after a while, it seemed to dampen her spirit, and in turn, demeaned her existence. It's like if your childhood role model was to say something completely opposite of how you think about them, you start to question their existence. It is absolutely normal to have doubts about yourself; however, don't put yourself in a position to believe what you mindlessly speak.

"THE BRAIN SIMPLY BELIEVES WHAT YOU TELL IT MOST. AND WHAT YOU TELL IT ABOUT YOU, IT WILL CREATE." 

Shad Helmstetter, What To Say When You Talk To Yourself

Imagine constantly telling/thinking to yourself that you are ugly because you don't possess certain qualities. You will go throughout life thinking that you’re truly unattractive, and unfortunately, no one will be able to tell you otherwise. I was listening to the Redefining Wealth podcast, Episode 208 - How I Learned to Love Myself and Patrice Washington stated how she never really thought of herself as being attractive. She always felt like the ugly duckling, and she devoted herself to success as a result. She told a story of how her husband, then-boyfriend, surprised her with decor for her new apartment, which included blown-up pictures of herself. She explained that because she didn't think of herself as beautiful, it was like a slap in the face when he gifted her. She wasn't able to accept what he knew to be true, because of the words she spoke over her life on a continual basis. Fast Forward to 2020, and she's known for being Chasing Purpose NOT Money (Redefining Wealth), America's Money Maven, and is an NYTimes best-selling author. I view her as an amazing, beautiful, educated black woman who is breaking barriers and defying odds for women like me. Women, like myself, look up to her and praise her for her boldness, confidence, and transparency.

The power of the tongue applies to every aspect of your life. How many times have you spoken limiting beliefs over yourself by stating simple negative words/phrases that have allowed you to believe them? Let’s go through some of the basics:

• I’m a dub ...

• I’m dumb ...

• I'm not smart enough ...

• I won't get that job because ... 

• I’m not beautiful like _____ ...

• I look stupid ... 

• I can’t lose weight ...

• I won't get married until I'm 70 ...

• I’m the worst ...

• I’m not worthy of ... 

• No one loves me ...

UNFORTUNATELY, the list goes on. This is why so many of us go through life dragging ourselves around like baggage because we don’t believe in ourselves enough to prove to the world that we are worthy. The sad part is, the world is treating us accordingly. Some of these negative self-talks may stem from what we experienced at an earlier point in life. But again, you have to Declutter Your Mind. You have the POWER to change the ways in which you speak to yourself and over your life. Don't play the blame game; you're blaming them for what they said but it's really on you if you believed it. Don't give others satisfaction, by believing the untruths they speak over you. In turn, don't allow there to be a stronghold over your tongue so that you speak negatively over someone else's life; whether or not they intentionally hurt you. HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE. Don't get caught up in that cycle. If you know better, do better. It's less energy and you'll be protecting you peace. won't get hurt.  

I am currently reading a Bible plan, named The Power of a Woman’s Word by Sharon Jaynes. She states "God has given us incredible power in our sphere of influence, and it begins with the words we speak ... Words start wars and bring peace - globally, and right in our homes". Sis, it is imperative that you only speak what you want to see over your life. It's a concept that sounds so simple but it really is powerful. Don't prevent yourself from excellence because of the words you speak. There is power in the tongue, use it wisely.