Find Your Happy!
- Ashley James

- Nov 10, 2020
- 2 min read
This past weekend I found myself tired, annoyed, miserable, and just blah (for lack of a better word). With work, the anticipation of election results, and desperately needing a vacation, I just felt myself sinking into a funk. Let me rant for a minute please bear with me. I worked three days during the week with one day off barely, then worked three days the weekend. I was trying not to overwhelm myself with election results but I desperately needed to hear the triumph of the Biden/Harris association. All the while keeping hope alive that by January I'll be on a plane somewhere in some kind of normalcy.
On Sunday, while at work, I found myself looking up massages/facials 🤫. It dawned on me that I neglected self-care all week, I basically came home slept, and jumped right into the next day. I saw something recently that said self-care is much more than spending a ridiculous amount of money shopping, eating out etc., it sometimes means taking 30 minutes a day to cater to yourself (reading a book, watching your favorite TV show, turning your phone off, cooking your favorite dish, saying 'no', refusing to perform when your burnout meter is sky-high etc). Instead of being present for everyone all the time, self-care is showing up for yourself one hundred percent of the time. Listen to your body, to your soul, to your heart.
A part of my self-care these days involves unwinding and watching tv, watching my sermons, or listening to music. When my off days permit, I find comfort in driving to whatever random destination and enjoying the beauty of the colorful leaves during this fall season. It gives me this overwhelming sense of calm that always puts me in a good mood. Yesterday I went to get a facial and apart from the amazing job that the aesthetician did, the drive home was amazing. It was 73º in NOVEMBER, in NYC! Need I say more? Y'all know I'm a tropical baby, so this cold business is for the birds. The weather, the leaves, the open road was just what I needed.
This is something that I am coming to terms with; don't feel the need to jump to everything and everyone, all the time. Cater to yourself. Don't wait until your furrowed in your misery before you catch a break. Then you'll just be recouping from burnout. Make it a habit to cater to your needs.
Oh, by the way, I painted my toenails today and let me say I'm feeling all the feels! 💕




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