B O U N D A R I E S

Hey girl hey!

You want to know something very real? It is 2021! Yup! And so we are no longer tolerating nonsense from anyone. It wasn't until recently, that I realized that I don't set clear and firm boundaries for myself. Now, I don't know about you, but that's a problem!

I used to feel guilty for saying "no", or not answering a phone call or text message, or latching on to something when someone close asks for a favor/help. Not to sound selfish, but understand that your time off, is not equivalent to your availability and to be honest whoever came up with that is a genius! I would always say this "my days off are my days off for a reason". Sometimes outsiders may see it as an opportunity to seek help, but it has to be on your terms.

Boundaries, are more than just availability. It has to do with setting standards that will give others an idea of how to interact/approach you. If you're always allowing something to happen, it won't change until you put a stop to it. It goes for all relationships intimate and not. If someone can not understand the standard you have set, chances are, they do not respect you or your feelings. To be honest, I am just really really learning this.

For example, if you consistently tell someone not to call you after booty call hours, and that's the ONLY time they call, what exactly does that say to you? Okayyyy! 🐣You have to take control of what precedence you set, as you continue to give people access to you. It goes hand in hand with protecting your peace. If you do not safeguard who you are and everything connected to you, you allow others to come in and dictate your life.

Just like the dividers on the highway that prevent opposing traffic from crashing into you, boundaries and firm limits, that do the same for others. Set the standard, and don't feel guilty for it! Work on safeguarding your space, and teach others how to treat you!